Have you ever had one of those days, when you just couldn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel? Where all hope is lost and you feel like the world is against you? That you feel as if you’re a failure? Don’t worry: you’re not alone – we’ve all been there. From the client from hell, whose demands are impossible, to the boss who you think feels that you’re an idiot because you can’t do anything right, every single one of us has felt like giving up. But before you do this, take a step back, analyse the situation, look at the facts (minus the emotion) and see if it is really as bad as you think.
Take emotion out of the situation
This is very difficult to do – even more so as you’ve put a lot of work into the situation so you’ll probably feel that you’ve invested a lot personally which is why you’ll obviously feel emtionally involved. So when that client or boss criticises what you’ve done, you’ll feel that it’s an attack on you. But try to do divorce emotion. If you can’t do it, get a colleague or friend to help you. Emotion clouds your judgement and can even put a negative spin on the facts, depending on how you feel about these which is why you need to look at it dispassionately.
Look at the cold, hard facts
Look at what actually happened, rather than what you remember happened. This is why it’s so important to – in anything you do in business – to put everything in an e-mail. So if a client comes back to you, saying that they are TOTALLY unhappy with what you’ve done even though they had indicated previously that they were ecstatic, you can turn around and say to them that you did exactly what they wanted you to do. And you can produce the documentary proof to back up your statements.
Although the temptation to level blame in situations like this is great, don’t do it – this will make people raise their defences, and they won’t listen to what you have to say. This will end up injecting more emotion into the situation – something that you definitely don’t want.
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